From another article “Lesbians: We made our baby deaf on purpose”
“After their daughter’s first hearing test, the couple wrote happily in her baby book: “Oct 11, 1996 – no response at 95 decibels – DEAF!” Their daughter attends a special kindergarten for children with hearing problems.
After tests on their baby son showed he also had severe problems, they decided against giving him a deaf aid in the one ear that still has some hearing, saying they will leave the decision to him when he is older.””
What parent doesn’t (secretly or not) hope their child will be just like them? Except when there’s a familial genetic defect involved – one that causes disease or a physical disability. Most people don’t want their children to be similarly afflicted. Sure, it might be easier for them raise these kids, helping them to deal with their deafness more easily because they are deaf. But forcing your child to accept deafness as a culture by selectively breeding a physical disability? How absolutely selfish. What are these women going to tell their children when they are teenagers and learn their parents intentionally made them deaf?
Maybe I’m wrong, but my expectation is that when a hearing couple has a deaf child that they would provide the appropriate learning environment for that child and adapt as a family however necessary. Why wouldn’t a deaf couple do the same if they had a hearing child? When I said this to Mel, she cited isolation as the major reason for her understanding of why the deaf couple would want a deaf child. Isolation caused by lack of common experience that would prevent bonding and truly feeling that you are a family. Not feeling accepted by your parents or their main society because you are different. By way of example, Mel says she would have wanted her parents to be gay. I really think that’s a completely different situation. I don’t consider being gay to be a disability and her parents certainly couldn’t control her being gay. I guess they might have tried to control it if they could… I wonder if these women want their kids to be gay too?
I guess what bothers me most about this situation is that they decided their children don’t need to be a part of society as whole – by physically limiting them to deaf society – eliminating many other types of cultural opportunities outside of deaf society in the process.
Read the whole story in A World of Their Own. Admittedly, the article cited above took much from this story, some of it out of context, making it sound harsher than it should.